What is an LGBTQ+ ally? Marriam-Webster defines an ally as “one that is associated with another as a helper: a person or group that provides assistance and support in an ongoing effort, activity, or struggle”. Adapting this definition to fit LGBTQ+ allies, an ally would be a straight and cisgender person who advocated for, joins with, and supports members of the LGBTQ+ community. As an LGBTQ+ affirming therapist and ally, I try to advocate for members of the LGBTQ+ community, and one way to do that is to help others become better allies for the LQBTQ+ loved ones in their lives.

GLAAD, one of the first organizations formed to advocate against LGBTQ+ defamation and discrimination, has identified 9 ways that straight/cisgender people can make better allies:

1. Be a listener.
2. Be open-minded.
3. Be willing to talk.
4. Be inclusive and invite LGBTQ+ friends to hang out with your friends and family.
5. Don't assume that all your friends and co-workers are straight. Someone close to you could be looking for support in their coming-out process. Not making assumptions will give them the space they need.
6. Anti-LGBTQ+ comments and jokes are harmful. Let others know that you find them offensive.
7. Confront your own prejudices and bias, even if it is uncomfortable to do so.
8. Defend your LGBTQ+ friends against discrimination.
9. Believe that all people, regardless of gender identity and sexual orientation, should be treated with dignity and respect.

Through following these guidelines, allies can ensure that their LGBTQ+ friends, family, coworkers, and classmates can feel heard, accepted, empathized with, and supported.